me and mincho finally figured it out:

I think my character portrays more of the generalization of man. This kind of perpetual youngster, bachelor kind of immature attitude towards love and possession of love and commitment… I think hers is a much more rational, I think women, in my experience, are able to realize when something is over and commit to the fact that it's over. And men are always trying to hold onto something and to always conquer. Always to keep, but yet not commit.

m-f